There is nothing more important in this world than your belief in yourself.
What you believe, or don’t believe, about yourself becomes the filter for how you show up in the world, how you make decisions, and how you treat yourself and others.
Confidence is having the courage to show up as yourself and for yourself – even when that choice feels risky, uncomfortable, or even scary. Confidence does not require you to have it all together or to be the loudest person in the room. It does, however, require you to master a deep level of self-awareness and self-acceptance.
There was a time in my life where I use to blame other people for robbing me of my joy. Then I woke up one day and realized I was the one robbing myself. I had made myself a victim and given every bit of my personal power to other people. And with that realization, I took it back!
I made some difficult choices to re-experience life with new vision, with new boundaries, and with a newfound sense of confidence. I came to understand that relationships are fragile and I am solely responsible for my half of every relationship. I stopped being the person I thought people wanted me to be, and I honored the truth of who I was – and had always been. I stopped being afraid to speak up and share my voice and trusted that people needed to hear my message in only the way I could say it. And I stopped believing the negative bullshit I had said about myself for years.
Authentic confidence comes from being able to wake up every morning and radically love the person staring back at you in the mirror. Loving anyone is a slow and unconditional process where you are required to invest time into the things you say are important. I hope you will invest in yourself today and make a choice that supports your belief about yourself.
Remember: you have permission to be exactly who you are and to live your life fully seen. Refuse to ever be a second-rate version of yourself!
What is the biggest factor in building self-confidence?
I asked people on Facebook what they thought the biggest factor was in building confidence. Here are a few of their responses:
Mark D. Kesley A. Rita E. Jeremy Z. Jackie A.
1) Love Yourself
2) Not compromising your own values/morals/ethics.
3) The realization that who you are and what you think/believe is just as important as everyone else.
4) Having a support system
6) Accepting your character defects and the person in the mirror for who you are.
John S. and Emily G.
7) Quit comparing yourself to everybody else.
8) Be consistent in everyday life
9) Accept fear
10) Knowing oneself
Do you have a different thought? Email me. I would love to learn from you.
“David Marcum and Steven Smith, authors of the book Egonomics, said, ‘Leadership is best reserved for people who don’t need positions of leadership to validate who they are.‘ Your authentic confidence is a result of standing, humbly and unapologetically, in the truth of who you are, and accepting the rewards and consequences that come from standing there. Accolades are wonderful, but they do not make you more or less worthy. Authentically confident people do not need external factors to validate who they are. Authentic confidence, derived from the clarity of your purpose and values, will always sustain you and it will never require you to prove it to anyone.”
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If no one tells you they believe in you, I believe in you.
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